I find that marriage and leadership roles act as mirrors—reflecting one's strengths, capabilities, and uniqueness, as well as one's flaws and weaknesses.

While this reflection can be terrifying, showing up every day and looking at the reflection with hopes and desires to refine the image is such a wonderful feeling.

When I was in Nigeria, as an African man, if a girl smiled at me, I would take that as an invitation to a conversation; when she looked straight into my eyes, that was more than an invitation. 

I don't think I am weird to feel this way because, as Nigerians, we aren't taught how to look at people in the eyes unless we have that awestruck butterflies for that person.