My wife and I got talking recently about Instagram algorithms lately. We live in the same house, but I rarely see her posts unless she tags me on them. She shared this post, "How to best the 2022 Instagram Alogrithm" with me, which enhanced our conversation and inspired this post.

Before now, I had this weird feeling about the competitive nature of specific social media platforms, especially Instagram, as they are pushing multiple functions, expectations and behaviours for both creators and consumers. 

Instagram used to be the lounge of social media where the Big Boys/Girls chilled until they started opening shops there, and it has become a marketplace. (not bad for real)

According to Ryan Holiday, in today's Daily Stoic episode titled "Stop Caring, What people think." He said something that struck me, "don’t spend much time thinking about what other people think. Think about what you think. Think instead about the result. About the impact, whether it is the right thing to do."

On reading this, you might feel the need to throw every piece of advice, criticism or feedback given to you by friends, family, strangers etc. I get it, some opinions are void of facts and cannot yield results.

Undoubtedly, everyone needs a father and mother to teach them the ways of life. A father and a mother possess different worldviews and experiences that can help shape a child into a world wonder or none other. 

I keep hearing of a cheap excuse from some toxic men saying that they are such a disappointment to themselves because they didn't have a father. 

I also hear some single moms place this reason in the front yard of their lives, claiming victim and never accepting that they had all it takes to raise a responsible man who would make a difference in society. 

Every time I see a single mother, the first thing that comes to my mind is that "she is the mother of many nations." Her son will rise to wipe off her tears, heal her sorrows and build a home she'd be proud of. 

What makes a man abuse a woman?

The answer is simple "Power." 

The measure of a man is what he does with power - Plato. 

Men are naturally stronger than women physically. If the man has an economic advantage, he is likely also to exhibit power over the finances of his home or relationship. 

What you do with your power as a man is what differentiates between abuse and empowerment.

Religiously speaking, from a Christian lens, we believe that the man is the head. We are quick to quote Ephesians 5: 22, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife..."